Why Your Family Or Friends Abandon You When You Break Contact With The Narcissist

If you have broken contact from a narcissist you probably feel abandoned by other people that are important to you. If you are thinking about breaking contact you may be concerned that you will be abandoned by other people. Knowing the reasons people “side” with the narcissist may help you deal with your loss.

I am sharing my observations as a person who:

1. Broke contact with my narcissistic mother 2 years ago

2. Divorced a narcissistic husband many years ago

3. Dissolved a business with a narcissistic partner

4. Transferred out of 3 jobs where my immediate supervisor was narcissistic

Based on my experiences I have some thoughts about why other people who were important to me abandoned me when I broke contact with the narcissist who ruled (or tried to rule) the scenario from which I escaped.

Here are the reasons why I think the people we escapees leave behind desert us:

You are no longer useful. In my family of origin I tried to protect my siblings and father so that they would not feel unloved, unliked and unworthy as I had. It seemed to work, they seemed to not experience the suffering that I experienced. In retrospect I see…