How Narcissists Don’t Hold Up Their End of Relationships
In a relationship with a narcissist you are expected to give, give and give while the narcissist takes everything.
Everything is about the narcissist and has no meaning unless it benefits them. This especially applies to relationships.
Actually narcissists do not have relationships. Narcissists have arrangements, but they are very skilled at making an arrangement look like a relationship. Unfortunately we humans do not initially understand that what we have with a narcissist is an arrangement and we treat it like a relationship.
Having different approaches means that you and the narcissist are going to treat what is between the two of you very differently. It also means that neither of you can live up to your end of the bargain. The narcissist cannot hold up their end of a relationship and since you do not know that what you have is an arrangement you don’t do very well at doing what is expected of you.
The following chart shows some of the differences that occur between you and the narcissist because you are seeking a relationship and the narcissist wants (and is only capable of) an arrangement.
The saddest part about the different approaches applied by you and the narcissist is that it cannot ever be different. It cannot be improved. The…
